The Third Spiritual Truth for Transformation

Hello Beautiful Soul!

After I had a spiritual awakening, I discovered three major truths about life. They radically changed my own life and the way I view the world. I’m sharing them with you in these first three posts.

This is the story of my discovery of the third spiritual truth.

Life’s Deeper Meaning–

Do you sometimes get the sense that there is a deeper meaning to your life but you can’t quite figure out what it is? I walked around like that for years…

Then, after discovering the first two spiritual truths, the deeper meaning became clear!

Our lives have two important levels: one is for the management of our day-to-day activities, and the other is the reason that they are the way they are, which is to help us grow in special ways.

The events in our lives are not random. The people we meet, the way others treat us, and our life events do have a higher meaning and purpose. They are all intended to help us grow on our spiritual paths!

The Transformation

The Third Spiritual Truth for Transformation: every life event holds a Spiritual Gift.

Every person comes into his life to receive special Gifts. The Gifts are decided upon before we are born, and our lives are designed to bring our Gifts to us. They are all opportunities for spiritual growth.

Every lifetime is built around specific goals that a soul hopes to achieve. The goals are many!  Some might be to find feelings of self-love or self-worth, or to find inner strength and to stand up for oneself. Others might be to face and overcome a great personal fear, or to find compassion. There are many possibilities.

The Gifts help us strip away our false beliefs about ourselves and others. They move us closer to becoming an expression of our God-self, which is Love, compassion, patience and forgiveness, among other beautiful attributes.

The Gifts always call on us to move into our hearts.

The Funny Thing–

It’s funny, because so many still want to live only on the first level of life and pursue life’s material pleasures. That’s the easy path, but is also the least fulfilling. It’s amusing because our souls don’t care how much money we make or what kind of car we drive. (No one has ever been  turned away from ‘Heaven’ for not owning a Lexus!) And most of us have heard stories that the richest people are those whose lives are filled with love rather than money.

And of course, “You can’t take it with you when you die.”

That’s true–except for one thing: we do take our spiritual growth with us!

That’s why it is so important that we pay attention to the events in our lives and heed the ways they are calling on us to grow. It is the most important part of our journey through life. It’s the real reason we are here.

What can go wrong?

There are two things that can derail us from our spiritual path: either ignoring the spiritual path altogether, or else refusing to accept responsibility for our spiritual growth.

The Gifts challenge us to grow– which means we must change!

If we are to evolve on our spiritual paths, we must change. And sometimes that can be uncomfortable. It means we may have to look at ourselves and see things we don’t want to see, such as negative feelings or fears we don’t want to face.

Problems can arise if we find that too uncomfortable and resist the change we are being called on to make. We may find ourselves in a ‘groundhog day’ situation, when events seem to repeat themselves.

An example of this might be a person who continually makes friends with people who don’t treat him well. He might think it’s just because people in general aren’t very nice. But he is being called to take a hard look at himself and the relationships in his life, and to understand why that is happening. He can resist as long as he likes, but his life situation won’t improve until he is ready to change and grow.

How do we know when we are being asked to grow?

Life acts as a mirror to our inner world. It provides a way for us to see where we are shining and where we need to correct course.

Everything in your life right now is a reflection of your inner world. If you are wonderfully happy–congratulations! Wherever you are not happy in your life is what you need to focus on.

In the example above, the man is not happy with his friend relationships. If we view that from the perspective that his outer world is a mirror of his inner world, then it may be that the people in his life who aren’t treating him well are reflecting back to him his own feelings of low self-worth. Moving into self-love and valuing himself more might go a long way to resolving his situation. It also will likely bring him more happiness.

Emotional Pain

We can also look at the situations in our lives that are causing us emotional pain. Pain is a great motivator to change and grow. It pushes us to try to heal and resolve whatever is causing it.  Sometimes we have to reach a real low point for that to happen. That’s because if our pain isn’t very great we usually will simply manage it instead of making the changes that are needed.

Do you have questions about the spiritual purposes behind the events in your life?

Please don’t worry if you do. There is really no possibility of failure (spirit is very patient– thank goodness!). We may veer off the path or take a short side trip, but our guides in spirit are very good at bringing us back on course.

You are a beautiful soul! Love, compassion, and forgiveness are all parts of your true essence which is your Higher Self or soul.

You simply are  being asked to remember your truth and return to it now.

The Gifts are intended to help us peel off the layers of forgetfulness so that we can once again become expressions of our Higher Self.

I would love to help you with this process! Please call to schedule a session.

Thanks for visiting my blog. Please feel free to leave a comment–I would love to hear about your thoughts and experiences with this.

I wish you well on your journey!




The Second Spiritual Truth for Transformation

Hello Wonderful Soul!

After I had a spiritual awakening, I discovered three major truths about life. They radically changed my own life and the way I view the world. I’m sharing them with you in these first three posts.

This is the story of my discovery of the second spiritual truth.

Harboring Hurts–

Has this happened to you–  someone hurt you, or something major occurred in your life that you didn’t want, and ever since you have been carrying around the pain and resentment it caused?

Major hurts aren’t always easy to get rid of. They can stay with us for years if we let them. The worst part is the anger and pain we feel for so long after the events happened.

How We Hurt Ourselves–

Our minds often want to play the what-if game: what if that person hadn’t done this thing? How would my life be different if that hadn’t happened? And then we often blame the other person for what we see as the shortfalls in our lives today. It’s a form of subtle (or not so subtle) torture that we inflict on ourselves.

I spent years immersed in the blame game. I blamed my parents for the shortfalls I saw in my life. I blamed them for my quietness, for my lack of friends and lack of success. I also felt angry with anyone who had treated me badly. I even felt angry with life itself for not having delivered more to me. I had a heart full of anger and what-ifs that I’d been carrying around for years.

Who is really to blame?

But when I discovered the First Spiritual Truth, that we plan everything in our lives and are not the victims of anyone or anything, my anger and blame suddenly had no place to go. Actually, the only place it had to go was to me–I had planned all of it!

Everyone who had treated me badly had done so at my request, to help me grow on my spiritual path.

And a somewhat embarrassing realization hit me: not only was my anger and blame misplaced, but I needed to thank every person who had hurt me. They had done so because I had asked them, as a way of helping me on my spiritual path. I also realized that I needed to forgive them for what they had done.

Blame had no place in this new understanding of my life. I am solely responsible for everything in it.

The Transformation–

The Second Spiritual Truth for Transformation: forgiveness of those who have wronged us.

And a Way to Let Go–

I confess that I did not go up to every person who had hurt me and personally thank and forgive them, but I did do that in a meditation. I pictured each of them, one by one, and forgave them. I also asked for their forgiveness of me for the bad feelings I had felt toward them.

The last person I forgave was me. I needed to forgive myself for having spent years blaming others for what I was responsible for. I also forgave myself for having caused myself so much pain.


And a funny thing happened: my anger, bitterness, and blame disappeared.

I felt lighter and freer. It was as if a weight had been lifted off my chest. I had no idea I’d been carrying that around for years.

It was then possible for me to refocus my life. I wasn’t a victim of bad luck as I had thought. With this new awareness I could now focus on my true purpose:

I had a spiritual job to do, which was to find a way to heal the emotional wounds from my childhood.

Having that clarity was truly uplifting! I finally was on my way!

Do you have the clarity you want?

We  are all beautiful souls who are meant to thrive and be happy! And we are the only ones who can stand in the way of our own happiness.

It is possible for you also to experience emotional freedom by releasing any long held negative feelings. If you would like help with this, I am here for you. As a coach, I have many techniques that can assist with the process.

Next, the Third Spiritual Truth for Transformation, which helped me align with my Divine Self!

Thanks for visiting my blog. Please feel free to leave a comment– I would love to hear about your challenges releasing things you want to clear!

I wish you well on your journey!




The First Spiritual Truth for Transformation

Hello Beautiful Soul!

After I had a spiritual awakening, I discovered three major truths about life. They radically changed my own life and the way I view the world. I’m sharing them with you in these first three posts.

This is the story of my discovery of the first spiritual truth.

Life’s Defining Moment–

Have you ever had a defining moment in your life, a moment that changed you in such a way that you knew you could never go back to the way you had been?

A moment like that came for me when I learned the First Spiritual Truth. It changed my life forever.

From Survival Mode–

Up to that point, I had been a survivor. I had been raised in a dysfunctional family with parents who abused alcohol. My parents had been so wrapped up in their own problems that they weren’t able to give me the love and attention I needed to really thrive.

I assumed that it must have been because I was damaged in some way– why else would my parents not love me more? I went through much of my adult life with low self-esteem and feelings of low self-worth. I had few friends, because I did not expect other people to like me. Why would they? I saw myself as damaged and not lovable.

And I blamed my parents for what I saw as the failure of my life, both for me as a person and for the lack of success in anything I undertook. If only they had loved me more. If only they had nurtured me more and spent more time with me! Then my life would be different and better.

I lived in victimhood for the first 50 years of my life! But my life and world turned upside-down when a friend gave me a copy of the book, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz.

To Transformation–

The First Spiritual Truth for Transformation: we are responsible for every aspect of our lives.

To my very great surprise, I learned from this book that every soul goes through a planning session before coming into a life. During that session, every important aspect of the soul’s earthly life is decided, such as the choice of its parents, its siblings, its sex and sexual orientation, its race and socio-economic status, marriage partners, and whole slew of other characteristics. Little in that life is left to chance.

The soul even contracts with its future parents as to the way it wants to be raised: to be warmly loved, ignored, driven to perfectionism—whatever it wants to experience.

Our Real Purpose–

The book explains that the reason for this is that every soul has very specific objectives it wants to achieve in each of its lives. The purpose of a pre-birth planning session is to set the stage for the achievement of those objectives.

Every person’s life  is designed to achieve its soul’s objectives for spiritual growth.

For instance, if a soul wants to have the experience of finding God in his upcoming life, he might plan to be an alcoholic and to reach such a low point that he turns to God. While we often judge alcoholism to be a human weakness, it actually may have been planned by that person. The book shares an example of this.

The book also explains that the soul may intentionally plan for certain wounds to occur in a person’s life, often in childhood. The purpose is to give that person the opportunity to find a way to heal the wounds, and in the process, to gain wisdom and inner strength.

Life’s New Meaning–

After reading this book, I was forced to look at my own life in this entirely new light. Was it really possible that I was responsible for everything that had happened in my life, including choosing my parents and the way that they had treated me?

Had I really chosen to receive too little love from my parents so that I could find ways to value and love myself later in life? Had these things happened for me, to help me grow spiritually? Was it possible that I wasn’t damaged, and that I could heal?

It was incredible to think about.

The Game We are Playing

And something wonderful awakened within me. I began to feel empowered. I began to see that we are all playing something of a game—a very realistic game, but still a game. We think our purpose here is about what is happening on the surface—what we call life—but there is a whole other level at work, the spiritual level, which holds our real life purpose.

And the first rule of the game is that we are responsible for everything in our lives.

It was life changing! I stepped out of victimhood and into self-empowerment.

(The idea that we plan all the major events of our lives before we are born can seem pretty incredible, especially when we think about people getting cancer or children dying. It can be hard to understand why a soul would desire that. I encourage you to get hold of a copy of Robert’s book. He explains it very beautifully.)

Who are You?

The truth is you are not the ‘character’ you are ‘playing’ in this life. It isn’t the real you! The real you is a beautiful, loving Light, a Child of God, who is here having an experience in a human body. Our job—our spiritual work—is to drop the mask of our ‘character,’ and return to a full awareness and expression of our true Light, the Light of our Soul.

Adopting the perspective that you not your ‘character,’ but a beautiful soul who came into this life to achieve spiritual growth, sets you squarely on top of the spiritual game!

I found it very empowering. I hope you do, too.

Next, the Second Spiritual Truth for Transformation, which helped me open to life!

I would love to help you understand the spiritual challenges for the events in your life. Please call to schedule a session.

Thanks for visiting my blog. Please feel free to share a comment—I would love to know your thoughts on this perspective!

I wish you well on your journey!

~ Anne